Feelings arising from major losses

A psychotherapist writes about the error of trying to help someone by rushing or pressuring per to "cheer up" after a real loss.

Years ago, I had no "feelings police". If something made me despair, I cried.

Five years of cancellation have helped me develop a "feelings police" of a sort. It does not blank out feelings of danger, loss and suffering, but enables me to set them aside in order to deal with the situation in a calm and steady way.