Настроение:	contemplative
Entry tags:	russia, transitioning

Beauty Salon 2: Electric Boogalo
Summary of what happened:
1. I made an online appointed for gel nail extension (50 euro) plus dying (20 euro) and prepaid it.
2. To make an appointment one has to fill in a huge form answering all kinds of questions, including legal name and home address.
3. Beauty salon owner, Elysah (a post menopausal woman), contacted me on Whatsapp and began interrogating about my previous nail treatment.
4. That was already irritating (i dislike answering before anyone), but I explained that I had never visited salon before, outside the time I got beaten at the Muslim beauty salon, and I just glued the cheap Primark nails, painting over them myself.
5. Hearing I have glue nails, the salon manager tried to upsell a removal and cleaning service (another 30 euro).
6. I politely refused saying that I can easily do it myself. Other trans later pointed that I offended her (refused to pay full prices she usually expects, and I shown that I don't even need her).
7. She kept insisting that it would be better if her salon does it professionally (obviously now she overdid what marketing books suggest and got into the territory of being overly annoying sales manager who gets into your window while you are showering naked).
8. I that moment I've just removed my glue nails myself and sent her a photo (attached).
9. She got angry and began insulting my nails, saying that the white glue remains on them is infection, and she wont serve me.
10. I replied that I pay, and even if that is infection she can do gel over it. These are my nails, so it is not her business to decide for me.
11. Now she cancels the appointment without returning money and tells me that she can't help me.
12. Here I lost clear thinking, and decided she is just transphobic and one of these "I haven't seen you at church on Sunday, so I wont sell you the candies" type of ladies, so I began threatening her with filming and exposing her transphobia. I actually love getting into conflict with these types of conservatives, since they are my natural enemies my whole life.
13. As a response she began playing the victim and threatened me with cops.
14. I kept threatening her till she agreed to return my money.

I asked other Russian trans to analyze, why such accidents happen to me non stop. They pointed that the salon manager is not transphobic and all Dutch owned beauty salons work that way, trying to know their clients, while it is normal for them to be very picky, especially in smaller communities where everyone knows everyone. Other LGBT said I don't feel the mentality of European people, and I want cheap fast food, so I should look for a Ukrainian or a Turkish nails master - these care only about money. Apparently I wont ever be able to integrate with Dutch or other Europeans, because the fascist small town "community above money" mentality is completely alien to me, and I'm also not used to think about people's feelings during communication, since being autistic I'm low on empathy or having a good model of other people's minds. I.e. I'm unable and unwilling to fit in.